Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Quarter-Life Crisis.


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I found this one on my friend's notes in Facebook and thought it would be great to share it with you guys. This somehow summarized (or explained rather) what I have been going through this year.
This one just hits home and is EXACTLY what's going on with me. Sorry if this is quite long. It's worth the read.

For those in their twenty-something..

This puts it all into words perfectly. We call it the “Quarter-life Crisis.” It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn’t know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.
What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or unsincere, but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren’t so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.

You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can’t meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you’d just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. This goes out to all twenty-somethings … maybe it will help them feel like they are not alone in the state of confusion that is our post-grad years!!! “

Now, who's with me???

6 comments on "Quarter-Life Crisis."

Vlad on August 20, 2009 at 12:38 AM said...

I can relate to this one Mara. So it means I'm infected with "Quarter Life Crisis" from time to time. lolz.

Nice post. At least I'm enlighten now. :D

grayspirit on August 20, 2009 at 6:47 AM said...

Being young at about the age you are speaking about kind of sucks big time. But it is a time of growing and changing. Many paths to take or not to take. It gets easier once you have found your path.

Ranran on August 20, 2009 at 9:21 AM said...

I'm with you, Mara. Depressed ako lately talaga and it's either I don;t know the reason why or there are so many reasons. Let's go out sometime nga!

Maria@Conversations with Moms on August 22, 2009 at 4:44 AM said...

I remember those days. The good thing is that they don't last. It's a great poem though.

Monica on August 22, 2009 at 6:02 AM said...

Hi Mara, I'm with you too ;)

Happy weekend!

claude on September 2, 2009 at 1:51 PM said...

I am so with you and I hope to get out of this stage as soon as possible. :-)

 

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